Letting Go and Flying Free


“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” – Steve Maraboli


After reading an article about letting go and flying free, I sat there and thought about the times I relied on other people to walk with me into my destiny. I was afraid to go at it alone. It didn’t matter how inspired I was, I needed someone else to be there to hold my hand. I often thought that if I just had someone to walk me, I could do anything. As the years went on, I discovered that if I was going to get anything accomplished in my life, I needed to change my thinking.

The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward. –Steve Maraboli

I became disgusted with myself after a while, because I felt like I was letting myself down every time that lie of needing someone surfaced when I wanted to go to an event, go to the movies, try something new, socialize, go out to dinner, etc. So here’s what I did.

For every time that negative phrase rose up out of me, I reprogrammed my thinking and said, I’m never going to get anywhere waiting on other people. I repeated, I’m never going to get anywhere waiting on other people, until it was a natural reaction.

What a liberation to realize that the ‘voice in my head’ is not who I am. ‘Who am I, then?’ The one who sees that. –Eckhart Tolle

Life experience has taught me that, everything is not for everybody. We have to be willing to step out in order to step into our purpose. To rely on others out of fear is an excuse that will only keep us stagnate. I use this wisdom now as a  compass that reminds me that, I’m never going to get anywhere waiting on other people.

It’s easy to blame other people when you’re stuck in your thinking. How easy was it to say that the reason for my lack of success was because other people didn’t go with me?  When I reprogrammed my thinking I became the author of my own stagnation. If I didn’t do anything, the blame rested with me only.

When you blame others, you give up your power to change. – Robert Anthony

I encourage you to read 10 Things I’ve Let Go and How This Has Set Me Free, because it inspired me to take a look at not only what set me free but what else I can do to liberate myself even more.


A Partnership for Change


A couple of weeks ago, while driving to work, I was listening to WPFW and I was on fire by the time I reached the office. As the host encouraged callers to donate to the station she talked about the plight that the station endured to remain on the air all these years. How they suffer through vandalism by the KKK which put the station off the air twice in the 70’s. She briefly talked about the Dakota Pipeline situation. She offered listeners the opportunity to call in and make a donation in exchange will receive a flash-drive with black historical audio.

As I pulled into the garage of the building, I felt an urgency to do something that would inspire change. Something that would help me in my ignorance regarding issues of topics that I only learn about by listening to WPFW. I wanted in that moment to talk to people that I knew about the topics that were discussed, but I was left feeling empty because I knew that they were unaware of these topics. I wanted to have a conversation with somebody to exchange information and to get their perspective. I wanted to be educated and empowered. So in all my want for this conversation, I reached out to a couple of great people that inspire me and asked them to partner with me on organizing A Partnership for Change Dinner and Panel Discussion.

I figured in the end, that I will not sit on my hands and complain about it. I decided to push forward and organize. I envisioned having dinner enjoined by like-minded people who can contribute and intelligent exchange of conversation. People who are great listeners, teachers, and with respect for others perspective. People who aim for creating a space where we can have fluid conversations on topics of black culture, community, healing and much more.

Please get the word out and help me make this event a success.

A Partnership for Change Dinner & Panel Discussion
March 18, 2016 @ 6:30
Private Venue in Suitland, Maryland
Cost: $20 (Due by Mar. 4)
(Seating is limited to 10 guests.)

Contact: 38wake@gmail.com
This event dares to create a space where conversations around revolutionary change, healing within our black communities and our commitment to being active participants, and so many other urgent matters that need to be approached in an effort to transform minds.


“Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices-today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it.” – Kevyn Aucoin


There are times when the sun isn’t shinning and things are just too much for one person to handle. In these moments we are left with nothing else to do but to let go. We know this and we are good at letting go BUT—there are days when it’s necessary to scream and cry.

It is times when life seems too heavy of a burden, and we may not want to read about happy people and sunshine. On those days we don’t want to be the bigger person. On those days we don’t want to hear our conscious telling us that, “You’re not so innocent yourself.” It is on those days that we don’t want to hear all that expected, yes expected nonsense that people feel necessary to spew like, you’ll be ok, pray on it, ask the “blah-blah” for guidance, do yoga, meditate, etc.

What makes us human? The want to just BE. We don’t want to make excuses for being human. We don’t want to hear ridiculous advice about forgiving people who clearly caused us pain and discomfort.

What makes us human? The want to be angry at times. The want to not like someone and be able to voice it without a fight. We don’t hate them, but there are some people we just don’t like.

What makes us human? The want to scream. The want to scream at people that pretend that they are innocent.

What makes us human? The ability to remember that for every time someone pisses us off, we can recall a time when we did that same thing to someone else.

What makes us human? The feelings of defeat when we feel like we are being pulled in multiple directions.

What makes us human? The want to cry because we feel like things are falling apart.

What makes us human? The ability to choose. It is this ability alone that liberates us. The choice in any given moment to: scream, cry, kick, say no, run, love, punch, walk away, dislike, fall down, accept, lie, curse, cut off, tear up, throw away, write down, record, recall, attend, dismiss, engage, store, soar, shout, crush, step on, deactivate, jump, stand, voice, spend, shake, bow down, quit, relax, piss on, apologize, conform, eat, sleep, slam, pick, laugh, smile, give away, serve, march, spit on, vote for, organizer against, sacrifice, visit—TO BE HUMAN.

Share in one word, “What do you want to do?”


Your Brain Is A Muscle You Can Strengthen: Here’s How


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“I am who I am.” I’ve heard this line from patients countless times. “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks” is another version. Regardless of the form it takes, these statements are based on the same flawed belief that our ability, skill, and character are set in stone.

The fixation of this mindset begins early. Society labels us, and we label ourselves. A child is told he is a good or a bad listener. A high school student thinks of herself as good or bad at math. These labels become even more entrenched in adulthood.


February 2017 – Open Spaces: To Be Ready. To Share. To Sacrifice.

Open Spaces has been my theme lately; to use different spaces ( invisible to some and visible to others) to bring comfort and affirmation to individuals that are on the path of awakening and those individuals who are grieving a loss.

With this theme in mind, I have been finding myself in different spaces with individuals that continue to confirm within me that I must be there, wherever there is. To be ready when I am pulled. To share when its necessary. To sacrifice my story in service to others.

On a monthly basis, I will share these “Open Spaces” and the story that comes with it.

Venue: Anacostia Arts Center

Event: The Black Love Experience


The event felt like walking into my own mind, where familiar ideas where given a space to run wild. Within the different spaces in the arts center entrepreneurs were showcasing their ideas, products and services. There was the IntellectuUCool, a conversational based idea that encouraged collective interaction by daring to ask questions surrounding black love. Mayasa Talfair was presence, a vegan health enthusiast who shared her knowledge on the subject of womb work. In another part of the center guests engaged in a self-paced vision board activity.  There were opportunities to laugh out loud while being entertained by Eddie Bryant, a local comedian and speed conversations, an interactive speed socializing segment. I was introduced to the hairpiq.com, a black owned search engine that has created a space for people of color to share their hair pictures and products–it’s the google for everything hair! There was plenty of entertainment throughout the night and it was wall-to-wall black people.

From the time I got out of my car, I reconnected, I engaged, and I made contacts. I witnessed my ideas being transformed and I was inspired by people that looked like me making it happen.

My Affirmation in this Space: I am doing what I am called to do without hesitation.