Pain Changes Things

“Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain to change.”

– Tony Robbins

What would you have done if you found yourself every so often feeling like you were on the wrong path? Do you think you would have obeyed that voice inside your head and taken a different route? Do you think you would have waited a couple of months or years? How would you have answered the call?

Well, one-year decades ago I heard the call to move on from where I was in life. It was a whisper at the time. I proceeded on the same path despite the call. I got up everyday, went to work from 9 to 5, I came home and I was on repeat for two decades. The call to move became louder and louder over the years. What was the call? BE true to yourself.

At the start of 2015, I decided that not answering the call was too painful. I found myself making one of the most fearful decisions ever. I stepped out on faith and walked away from my career. This moment reminded me of a sermon by T.D. Jakes (Secret Agents for Change). In this sermon he says, “When you hurt enough you’ll change.” This statement became very real for me. I waited so long to listen and act that I got in a place where not acting wasn’t an option. I tried to remain in the place of comfort but the pain of not being true to myself hurt to much.

Truth be told I made all the excuses that I’m sure a lot of people make when they are faced with having to chose between comfort and discomfort.

How I knew that I was ready and on the right track despite the discomfort?

  1. I not only HEARD the call, I LISTENED.

Hearing simply happens. Listening is something you consciously chose to do.

  1. Fear followed me.

Don’t be fooled fear doesn’t disappear. Acknowledge it and accept that despite the constant companionship of fear you have to move.

  1. I crossed paths with like-minded people.

You suddenly find yourself in the presence of people who have/had similar experiences.

  1. The pain of resistance became draining.

Fear of the unknown brings about resistance. Even when you accept the change to some degree you will feel your resistance to the change. The degree of your resistance determines how much energy will be depleted.

  1. The call remained the same.

When you feel a tug trying to move you in a different direction in life and that call remains the same, you may want to LISTEN.

  1. When I moved in the direction of my call I felt free.

When you finally do that thing that you’ve been procrastinating about you will feel free or lighter. This doesn’t mean that fear won’t be there or that you won’t feel uncomfortable. You simply feel at ease having taken a step in the right direction.