“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.” – Willie Nelson
Myself and a good friend and of many years had a falling out which ended abruptly, leading to several months of no communication. It was heartbreaking because we talked everyday and to not have him to talk to made me a bit miserable.
After several months I decided that it wasn’t worth it and I picked up the phone. My heart was beating fast, I was thinking about what I would say followed by an apology, of course. I didn’t care about who was wrong at this point, I just wanted my friend back.
When he picked up, I felt silly because of how long it had been since we talked, suddenly what seemed like triumph at one time, now dissipated into foolishness. We both talked over each other and when we both stopped to hear what the other had to say, he said, “I was just on the other line leaving you a message.”
We immediately got off the phone so that I could listen to the message he left! For everything I planned to say to him, which I did say once I got back on the phone, he had said in his voice message.
We both shared a laugh and picked up where we had paused our friendship months prior. We were also taken aback by this reunion that we both decided at the same exact moment that our friendship was greater than our disagreement.
In another situation, I was dreading sending a follow-up letter to a then bleak employment opportunity. After a week went by, I sent the email with a feeling of defeat. I didn’t want to send a letter for an opportunity I felt was out of reach but I did it anyway because it was the right thing to do.
When I received a reply from the recruiter stating that she left me a voice message for a second interview the day prior, I was beyond words. All I could do was apologize.
These are the most memorable experiences of “I was just about to” that I wanted to share. We all have at some point experienced similar occasions of:
“I was just sitting here thinking about you.”
“I had a dream about you the other day.”
“I was just about to call you.”
“I was just talking about you.”
I share this to remind myself and others that pulling on positive experiences will melt away defeat and banish doubt. To that I sing, “Que Sera, Sera, What will be, will be.”
Opportunities will track you down when the time is right. In the meantime, take the first step and trust your gut.