What does trauma have to do with money?

“You can’t cross the sea merely by standing and staring at the water.” – Rabindranath Tagore

Yoga Journal

Did you know that trauma could show up in your relationship with money?

I noticed early on in my late teens that my childhood trauma negatively impacted my life. During that time it was easy to point out how I attracted unhealthy relationships. I programmed myself to believe that I was in control. Due to this trauma I felt that by giving myself and my possessions away I became powerful because there would be nothing worth taking. Again, if I gave it away no one could claim to have taken it.

Although, I recognized this in myself early, I was ill-equipped to make the necessary changes I needed to in order to make a great life. As time went on I became disappointed in myself for not changing my behaviors because in recognizing my patterns, I also soon became frustrated with not been able to answer the questions that bombarded me every time I made a decision I would later regret.

Only in time was I able to undo the damage that was done in my childhood. My life changed because of the questions that surfaced every time I made a regretful decision. I got so sick and tired of not facing myself and answering: Why do I keep doing this to myself? What can I do differently? And one after another.

No longer able to ignore the questions, I began to answer them. That’s when things changed. I took a stance to evaluate some of the other areas in my life that were effect but seemed at first glance to just not be of any connection to my trauma. One such connection was my finances. Of course, I know now that trauma seeps into all areas of your life be it:  Work, Family, Spirituality, Physical/Mental Health, Intimacy, and Finances. I always gave a lot of me away, to the point that I didn’t have much to give myself in the end. It wasn’t until the point of exhaustion that I woke up and paid attention.

Overspending, neglecting to pay debt, yes, some of it can be attributed to mismanagement but I knew for myself that I applied that same principle that – If I gave it away, no one can claim to have taken it.

This brings me to: The yoga money (page 77) (The May Edition of Yoga Journal)

After reading this article in the grocery store, I being to think about the connections I missed at one time. I wanted to share because I believe that even if you find this of no good use to you, I hope that you begin to re-evaluate some of the clues your life may be sending you through your finances.

The exercise: What’s your money type breaks down money archetypes to help people tease out what might be affecting their financial life on an unconscious level.

I chose 3 types at a glance to give you all an idea but there are more to choose from. I encourage you to check out the article in its entirety.

Type: The Guardian

You are _____________

(Chose from the choices below to fill in the blank.)

Thoughtful

Prudent

Responsible

Anxious

Pessimistic

A worrywart

Try this practice

Whenever you feel anxious about money or worried that you’re not doing enough to take care of yourself and your family, breathe into your lower abdomen. It’s virtually impossible to be fearful when you’re taking full breaths, says Kessel. Just relax, and let gravity pull oxygen into your lower lungs.

Your New Mantra: “It’s OK to make a spontaneous purchase I can enjoy my money and still be responsible when it comes to my finances.”

 

Type: The Innocent

You Are _______________

(Chose from the choices below to fill in the blank.)

Hopeful

Adaptable

Trusting

In Denial

Helpless

Avoidant

Try This Practice

If you find yourself relying on an “It’ll all work out” motto, or it feel like you don’t have a good grasp on where your money is going, seek help from someone with expertise to create a plan that allows you feel peace and abundance at your current level of income, whatever that is.

Your New Mantra: “I will look at my finances and aim for what’s important to me, even if that means changing my lifestyle to work within a budget.”

 

Type: The Pleasure Seeker

You Are _______________

(Chose from the choices below to fill in the blank.)

A spender

Unconcerned

Drawn to Luxury

Impulsive

In Debt

Insecure

Try This Practice

Commit to one day a week in which you will not handle money in any way. Buy groceries ahead of the time, pay your bills another day, and avoid using credit. Then, find other ways to enjoy yourself that don’t require financial transactions, such as getting out in nature or reading a great book.

Your New Mantra: “I can feed my senses and make myself happy without using money.”

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