“Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.” – Steve Maraboli
After reading an article about letting go and flying free, I sat there and thought about the times I relied on other people to walk with me into my destiny. I was afraid to go at it alone. It didn’t matter how inspired I was, I needed someone else to be there to hold my hand. I often thought that if I just had someone to walk me, I could do anything. As the years went on, I discovered that if I was going to get anything accomplished in my life, I needed to change my thinking.
The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward. –Steve Maraboli
I became disgusted with myself after a while, because I felt like I was letting myself down every time that lie of needing someone surfaced when I wanted to go to an event, go to the movies, try something new, socialize, go out to dinner, etc. So here’s what I did.
For every time that negative phrase rose up out of me, I reprogrammed my thinking and said, I’m never going to get anywhere waiting on other people. I repeated, I’m never going to get anywhere waiting on other people, until it was a natural reaction.
What a liberation to realize that the ‘voice in my head’ is not who I am. ‘Who am I, then?’ The one who sees that. –Eckhart Tolle
Life experience has taught me that, everything is not for everybody. We have to be willing to step out in order to step into our purpose. To rely on others out of fear is an excuse that will only keep us stagnate. I use this wisdom now as a compass that reminds me that, I’m never going to get anywhere waiting on other people.
It’s easy to blame other people when you’re stuck in your thinking. How easy was it to say that the reason for my lack of success was because other people didn’t go with me? When I reprogrammed my thinking I became the author of my own stagnation. If I didn’t do anything, the blame rested with me only.
When you blame others, you give up your power to change. – Robert Anthony
I encourage you to read 10 Things I’ve Let Go and How This Has Set Me Free, because it inspired me to take a look at not only what set me free but what else I can do to liberate myself even more.