When We Dare To Be Powerful

I have a habit of going on Forbes every day and if for nothing else, I read the quote of the day.

The Forbes Quote of the Day

“When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.” – Audre Lorde, Writer and Activist.

 

Then I copy and paste the author in google and read until I’m satisfied—bon appetite!

“I was going to die, sooner or later, whether or not I had even spoken myself. My silences had not protected me. Your silences will not protect you…. What are the words you do not yet have? What are the tyrannies you swallow day by day and attempt to make your own, until you will sicken and die of them, still in silence? We have been socialized to respect fear more than our own need for language.”

I began to ask each time: “What’s the worst that could happen to me if I tell this truth?” Unlike women in other countries, our breaking silence is unlikely to have us jailed, “disappeared” or run off the road at night. Our speaking out will irritate some people, get us called bitchy or hypersensitive and disrupt some dinner parties. And then our speaking out will permit other women to speak, until laws are changed and lives are saved and the world is altered forever.

Next time, ask: What’s the worst that will happen? Then push yourself a little further than you dare. Once you start to speak, people will yell at you. They will interrupt you, put you down and suggest it’s personal. And the world won’t end.

And the speaking will get easier and easier. And you will find you have fallen in love with your own vision, which you may never have realized you had. And you will lose some friends and lovers, and realize you don’t miss them. And new ones will find you and cherish you. And you will still flirt and paint your nails, dress up and party, because, as I think Emma Goldman said, “If I can’t dance, I don’t want to be part of your revolution.” And at last you’ll know with surpassing certainty that only one thing is more frightening than speaking your truth. And that is not speaking.”

Unapologetically yours,

Wake38

Something Borrowed: What I know for Sure

What I Know for Sure


Issue: August 2017 Oprah Magazine

I’ve Mastered the Art of Letting go so well, I forget to be angry. Ask anyone who really knows me, and they will confirm: I don’t hold grudges very long.

I learn the Lesson, yes (this person cannot be trusted–or is toxic, dangerous, rude, whatever), but the grinding replay of what was done or said, looping over and over in my head, I let go.

For me, it comes from years of practice. And from listening, over the decades, to thousands of stories from people who couldn’t release the past and got stuck in it. For sure, that’s one of the great tragedies of human behavior I’ve witnessed: seeing grown men and women who can’t stop playing the mind tape from an event that happened days, weeks, sometimes years ago.

What a loss of precious time and energy, being a prisoner by your own hand, laden with the burdens of the past.

Eckart Tolle speaks beautifully of this in this book A New Earth, when he shares the story of the two Zen monks:

     Tanzan and Ekido…were walking along a country road that had becomes extremely muddy after heavy rains. Near the village, they came upon a young woman who was trying to cross the road, but the mud was so deep, it would have ruined her kimono she was wering. Tanzan at once picked her up and carries her to the other side.

The monks walked on in silence. Five hours later, as they were approaching the lodging temple, Ekido couldn’t restrain himself any longer. “Why did you carry that girl across the road?” he asked. “We monks are not supposed to do things like that.”

“I put the girl down hours ago,” said Tanzan. “Are you still carrying her?”

That’s reality for so many people. Maybe you’ve one of them, holding on to what happened or what you think should have happened.

But I ask you: For what purpose? To feel right? Righteous? Justified? Validated?

Proving I was right used to be a major character flaw. I had to do some conscious work to change it.

A single question got me started: Do your want to be right or do you want peace? Those 11 words released me years ago and put me on the path to freedom.

Whatever your reason for holding on to resentments, I know this for sure: There is none worth the price you pay in lost time. Time you could have given yourself to love and live more fully. Time you can never make up.

This time is now. Let go!

 

**This piece is an original article taken from Oprah magazine August 2017 issued.

 

Wednesday Wake-up Call

“Questions and answers that I hope can bring peace to those awakening souls that have awaken to find themselves so far from home.” ~W38

 

“I always wonder what healing really looks like—in body, in spirit. I’m attracted to the idea that the mind, the soul, can heal as neatly as bones. That is they are properly set for a given period of time, they will regain their original strength. Healing is not that simple. It never is.” ~Hunger by Roxane Gay

What does a healed spirit look like?

A violated body.

When I was younger between the ages of five and seven my spirit was broken. Although I would not say it was painful, it was more confusing than anything because it was an act of betrayal. As a child it was hard to relate distrust and violation with someone who tickled you until you cried or protected you from the world. I measure my brokenness of spirit solely based on the damage it produced in my life. Like a run in a pair of stockings the damage ripped through my childhood, teenage years and into my early twenties.

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Making My Way Back to Peace of Mind

“I am a huge believer in giving back and helping out in the community and the world. Think globally, act locally I suppose. I believe that the measure of a person’s life is the effect they have on others.” ~Steve Nash

 

It is my belief that when I am in a moment of lack that I should give encouragement to those who I think may benefit from what I do have an abundance of at that time. That lack for me at this time is patience. The people I surround myself with in life have on many occasions said that one of my greatest strengths is patience. I can take a lot and keep calm. So much so, that I can recall the last time I blew up in public, which was in the summer of 2015 at the movies. I calmly waited until after NWA went off, I sat there in the theater with this women outright disrespect playing on repeat in my head, as I inserted different scenes that mimicked NWA’s hardcore antics. Needless to say after the movie went off, I waited outside the theater for her to come out and I approached her. I let her have it short of putting my hands around her neck. It felt unreal to be in that space of giving control over to the situation. I had movie length time to stop myself, but damn – it felt rewarding (sorry) but it also felt like I loss control, which is a space that I dislike being in.

In my lack of patience at this time, I have an abundance of encouragement. I always say that when we speak to other people positive or negative, you speak those same words into our own life. We are closer to our own audio, right. In an attempt to turn my lack of patience into a moment of clarity, I want to give encouragement.

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The Hanger, Hook and Shelf.

    

I heard that the way you keep your house says a lot about you. That can be a bit subjective because even though we may not understand another person’s living space, as long as they understand it then why should we judge. Now if it’s our own madness, than it’s time to take a look at how to reorder some things. Will you agree that it’s inconvenient to step over clothes and boxes to get to the kitchen? I think so. The same for the mind, it’s inconvenient to stumble on antiquated ideologies. It’s inconvenient and a hassle to continue on repeat because you have gotten so used to stepping over and going around the problem. Most processes that we use in our everyday life can be attributed to how we structure things mentally.

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June 2017 – Open Spaces: To Be Ready. To Share. To Sacrifice.

Open Spaces has been my theme lately; to use different spaces ( invisible to some and visible to others) to bring comfort and affirmation to individuals that are on the path of awakening and those individuals who are grieving a loss.

With this theme in mind, I have been finding myself in different spaces with individuals that continue to confirm within me that I must be there, wherever there is. To be ready when I am pulled. To share when its necessary. To sacrifice my story in service to others.

On a monthly basis, I will share these “Open Spaces” and the story that comes with it.

Venue: Carver Terrace Recreation Center

Event: A Leap of Love Dying to be Reborn

Breath of Life

The day long event started with great food and a great atmosphere. It’s always a pleasure when you enter a space and there are options for everyone, but mainly vegetarian. The space was warm and inviting. One table had gifts on it and I couldn’t help but smile when I found my name.

From the start of the event the host gave us her backstory, which included her experience of ascension. Although unlike my own, I am relieved when other people can share pleasurable experiences about ascension. As I sat there listening to her story, I couldn’t help but take notice of how different things in the room contributed to her story. For instance, she said that when she found herself coming out of her ascension that she thought about popcorn and she didn’t know why. As I’m sitting there devouring the caramel popcorn on the table, I thought, this is awesome. To have this popcorn on the table helps in making this connection that much more real. I asked her if that was her plan and funny enough she said no, but there goes the sub-conscious. I smiled because haven’t we all recognized our subconscious at work?

I offered a 45 minute session on writing for the sake of gratitude that I thought was refreshing. This writing exercise was based on Simple Abundance by Sarah Ban Breathnach. Keeping in line with the simplicity of things, I created handouts for participants to draw inspiration from different quotes from Simple Abundance.

Here are a few of the quotes that participants had to inspire them to write about what they were grateful for.

“Every day offers us simple gifts when we are willing to search our hearts for the place that’s right for each of us. (January 15)”

“if you want your life to come together, you have to start treating yourself better.”

“You only live once—but if you work it right, once is enough. —JOE E. LEWIS”

Next was a powerful story about redemption by Linda, a transformation speaker residing in the DMV. This was a golden story and one that I will never forget. Her use of metaphors added a surprise element that left all of us with our mouths wide open. For someone who had not planned to speak, she seemed prepared. Looking back I am reminded of the quote, “Success is where preparation and opportunity meet.”

I was delighted when canvases were passed out. We were instructed to paint a drawing or use words to create an imagine of ourselves. In the end, there were pictures of flowers, happy faces with a smile spread across the canvas, and a lake surrounded by nature. We worked our creative muscle and it was awesome when we were encouraged to share our paintings.

If you can find a women’s circle in your area, I encourage you to check it out. Women Circle’s are theme based and offer participants a support system.  My first circle was formed in support of women who seek support in reaching financial, spiritual, health, professional, and personal goals.

The host of A Leap of Love Workshop, Crystal Bell-Lundy leads Breath of Life Women’s Circle in Washington, D.C on a weekly basis.

My Affirmation in this Space: The truth is all that matters.