WHAT LABELS DO YOU EMBRACE?
“I am who I am.” I’ve heard this line from patients countless times. “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks” is another version. Regardless of the form it takes, these statements are based on the same flawed belief that our ability, skill, and character are set in stone.
The fixation of this mindset begins early. Society labels us, and we label ourselves. A child is told he is a good or a bad listener. A high school student thinks of herself as good or bad at math. These labels become even more entrenched in adulthood.
Open Spaces has been my theme lately; to use different spaces ( invisible to some and visible to others) to bring comfort and affirmation to individuals that are on the path of awakening and those individuals who are grieving a loss.
With this theme in mind, I have been finding myself in different spaces with individuals that continue to confirm within me that I must be there, wherever there is. To be ready when I am pulled. To share when its necessary. To sacrifice my story in service to others.
On a monthly basis, I will share these “Open Spaces” and the story that comes with it.
Venue: Anacostia Arts Center
Event: The Black Love Experience
The event felt like walking into my own mind, where familiar ideas where given a space to run wild. Within the different spaces in the arts center entrepreneurs were showcasing their ideas, products and services. There was the IntellectuUCool, a conversational based idea that encouraged collective interaction by daring to ask questions surrounding black love. Mayasa Talfair was presence, a vegan health enthusiast who shared her knowledge on the subject of womb work. In another part of the center guests engaged in a self-paced vision board activity. There were opportunities to laugh out loud while being entertained by Eddie Bryant, a local comedian and speed conversations, an interactive speed socializing segment. I was introduced to the hairpiq.com, a black owned search engine that has created a space for people of color to share their hair pictures and products–it’s the google for everything hair! There was plenty of entertainment throughout the night and it was wall-to-wall black people.
From the time I got out of my car, I reconnected, I engaged, and I made contacts. I witnessed my ideas being transformed and I was inspired by people that looked like me making it happen.
My Affirmation in this Space: I am doing what I am called to do without hesitation.
“If you want to be happy, be.” ~Leo Tolstoy
We’ve all hit a low motivational point in our lives at one time or another. I am completely aware of that feeling of having nothing to fight for. In those reoccurring periods of despondency, I couldn’t find a reason to get myself out of bed.
It’s funny that I got the life-changing question at a job interview. It was a stressful situation, and the hiring manager made it even more overwhelming when he looked at me straight in the eyes and asked: “What motivates you in life?”
I can’t remember what I answered, but I do remember the devastation I felt from the true answer I found in me: “Nothing, nothing motivates me.”
That was the turning point. Lots and lots of meditations later, I realized where all that frustration was coming from: I didn’t have a single thing that made me happy.
Why was I so incomplete? I couldn’t get a job that made me feel useful, and all my friendships were superficial. I’ll spare you from the details of my reasoning process. I didn’t read, I didn’t write, I wasn’t trying to learn anything, I didn’t have a special someone in my life, and I didn’t have a hobby.
A HOBBY! The sole thought of it made me burst in laughter. I’d never had a hobby. I basically had nothing to lose, so I decided I would give this idea a try. Picking a hobby was all I needed to do, and that’s how I ended up making endless reading lists.
Ever dreamed of quitting your corporate desk job to pursue your passions and your love of travel? You’re not alone. According to a recent Harris Poll for Airbnb, 64 percent of U.S. workers say they would leave their current job for one that allowed them to be more involved in things they are passionate about.
Airbnb set up its new Experiences platform to respond to just those people: Would-be entrepreneurs who want to leave the corporate world behind and follow their dreams. And in turn, these Airbnb Experience Hosts help travelers get to know a destination at a deeper level by allowing them to connect with a local.
Here are four women who have successfully made the leap.