Your Brain Is A Muscle You Can Strengthen: Here’s How


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“I am who I am.” I’ve heard this line from patients countless times. “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks” is another version. Regardless of the form it takes, these statements are based on the same flawed belief that our ability, skill, and character are set in stone.

The fixation of this mindset begins early. Society labels us, and we label ourselves. A child is told he is a good or a bad listener. A high school student thinks of herself as good or bad at math. These labels become even more entrenched in adulthood.

How a Hobby Can Boost Your Motivation and Change Your Life

If you want to be happy, be.” ~Leo Tolstoy

We’ve all hit a low motivational point in our lives at one time or another. I am completely aware of that feeling of having nothing to fight for. In those reoccurring periods of despondency, I couldn’t find a reason to get myself out of bed.

It’s funny that I got the life-changing question at a job interview. It was a stressful situation, and the hiring manager made it even more overwhelming when he looked at me straight in the eyes and asked: “What motivates you in life?”

I can’t remember what I answered, but I do remember the devastation I felt from the true answer I found in me: “Nothing, nothing motivates me.”

That was the turning point. Lots and lots of meditations later, I realized where all that frustration was coming from: I didn’t have a single thing that made me happy.

Why was I so incomplete? I couldn’t get a job that made me feel useful, and all my friendships were superficial. I’ll spare you from the details of my reasoning process. I didn’t read, I didn’t write, I wasn’t trying to learn anything, I didn’t have a special someone in my life, and I didn’t have a hobby.

A HOBBY! The sole thought of it made me burst in laughter. I’d never had a hobby. I basically had nothing to lose, so I decided I would give this idea a try. Picking a hobby was all I needed to do, and that’s how I ended up making endless reading lists.

Quit Your Office Job: Tips From 4 Women Who Transformed Their Lives With Travel

Ever dreamed of quitting your corporate desk job to pursue your passions and your love of travel? You’re not alone. According to a recent Harris Poll for Airbnb, 64 percent of U.S. workers say they would leave their current job for one that allowed them to be more involved in things they are passionate about.

Airbnb set up its new Experiences platform to respond to just those people: Would-be entrepreneurs who want to leave the corporate world behind and follow their dreams. And in turn, these Airbnb Experience Hosts help travelers get to know a destination at a deeper level by allowing them to connect with a local.

Here are four women who have successfully made the leap. These newfound entrepreneurs tell what it took to quit their jobs and pursue their passions — and why they aren’t looking back.

Your Support Would Mean The World To Me (My 1st Short Story)

Things Do Fall Apart
by Tiffany Hair

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It happened many years ago that I loss my baby brother Aaron. During this time writing helped me in my grieving process and turned those dark days into lighter spaces. Sometimes it takes losing someone, in my case, my brother to realize that nothing is completely gone even in death. I learned that in death things are born and for me that was the gift of writing. Today would have marked his 39th birthday.

Thanks in advance for your support and by all means leave a review,


Things Do Fall Apart: Amazon September 19


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From the onset of the story Vivian Marie Sergeant pulls you into her mind. She is a lover of black eyes and busted lips.  Vivian doesn’t have any shame in ordering a tall glass of abuse with a punch on the side. Be warned that her cup is full and her hands are shaky, so the contents are likely to spill.




My story…

I am committed to using my life to change the lives of individuals thus changing my community. With my voice I inspire, with my hands I mold, and with my talents, I give. With all of who I am I want to leave a lasting impact on those with whom I come in contact with. I am currently working on a short story collection titled: Things Do Fall Apart. The collection of twelve stories is centered around women dealing with a myriad of issues such as: domestic violence, multiple personality disorder, rape, postpartum depression, abortion, obsessive-compulsive disorder, etc.

Why did I choose this theme for my collection: Things Do Fall Apart? I didn’t the stories chose me; I simply answered the call.

I thank you in advance for all your support in the past, present and hopefully in the future as I move forward with honing my skills as a writer and advancing towards my goals. This blog has served as a great tool and the support I have received in this short time has been amazing! I look forward to the road ahead in this blogosphere and ask that you also subscribe to:

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Tiffany Q. is a writer of short stories and personal essays. She is a member of The Writer’s Center located in Bethesda, Maryland. She is currently working on: Things Do Fall Apart, a short story collection and resides in Maryland with her three teenage daughters.

Who Are You Spending Time With?

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A couple of weeks ago I had a discussion with a friend of mine about what it takes to achieve our goals in life. The main conclusion of this conversation is that a large amount of how successful we are in life comes down to the people we spend our time with. Strange as it may sound no matter how independent or self-efficient we are greatly influenced by those closest to us.

Impact People Have on Us

Many of us have all type of relationships some platonic, significant other, co-workers, or family members. However sometimes we don’t realize the power they can have on our lives. If you want to know where your life is heading look at your friends. If your friends are going places, have a spirit of excellence, kind, generous, courteous, and pursuit of success then those qualities are going to rub off on you.

The Significance…

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“The aim of life is to live, and to live is to be aware, joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware.” – Henry Miller 

Building Lights

This was written in the morning after waking up some time go. My frustration had been consuming me surrounding the latest events that have unfolded and play on repeat on every news channel and radio station around the world.

I imagined, a world where everyone would intentionally do the work that it takes to awaken to a higher level of consciousness.

The work I speak about through-out this post is reflective of a person who strives daily to take proven wisdom found in every experiences to explore the darkest corners of their psyche to spark a light. The aim is to turn on every light within their soul until every light in the body is on. For every light they turn on within, it illuminates the world and adds to a greater force that benefits all of humanity.

The work drives down to the WHY of it all.

The work in everyday life appears in conversations that pry open doors that were long ago closed. We don’t speak on it, but somehow in conversations the door creeps open a bit causing us discomfort. It may have happened during a conversation about a friends love for their mother’s sweet potato pie. And right when they reminiscence about the icy look of the pie and the sweet charge that they remember as a child does it remind us of our own distance relationship we may have with our mother. The work begins there in the middle of the conversation when the memory swings on the rusty hinges of our past.

I remember how hard it was to face the dark as a little girl. It wasn’t until I got older that the boogie man disappeared and I realized for all the things I feared the darkness gave them life. It is in the light that illusions disappear and the truth of a matter presents itself.

Spiritual downloads are serious business because most times at least with me, I have to sit with it and try in all my humanness to hold onto a truth that may or may not mirror my present knowledge. There have and will be times when the thought or conversation is beyond me and I cannot grasp the message and it escapes me temporarily. In time, I trust that the thought will revisit me.

Allowing people the ability to glimpse into my thought life is different but it’s necessary. Necessary because I aim to help sensitize a world, that seems unbothered by the growing trend of violence as a form of entertainment. I aim to grow the WORK-force.

I work in corporate America, I am a mother, I vote, I party occasionally and yet, I do the work for the sake of illuminating the world and living a life of ease. A life where pain and joy comes in waves. I plan and work daily in pursuit of my passion. Ease in life is a life in which I am constantly reminded that all of the discomfort that life brings accounts for my growth, so I work to lessen my resistant and that’s why growing older makes me happier every year. I accept my part in the pain knowing that the pain in this life benefits the entire world.

To stay in the midst of spiritual union longer one must be willing to let go and press deeper in love or any other higher thought. These thoughts bring about memories that take us higher and places us in conversation where love teaches us the truth about who we are. When we stay in this space we unite with a greater force that will answer the questions we so desperately need the answers to. In the space of love all things that matter to this world has no value. In that space pain and fear is unknown.